>Feel the Reward

>There are some things that just really get my blood boiling.  The thought of kids being abused and/or neglected is one of those things that just gets me every time.  Yesterday, I watched an episode that I had recorded on Oprah, about the Girl Who Lived in a Dog Cage.

I bawled.

Just thinking about it makes me so incredibly mad.

It also makes me so sad for any child who would be put in any kind of circumstances like this.

I really want to be able to buy a really big house, quit my job, and be able to just foster kids full time.

The girl, Chelsea, on Oprah’s show stated that after she and her brother’s were rescued, she was in numerous foster homes.  She was adopted, and then ended up back in foster care.  Now, she did not elaborate on what happened with her adoption, she didn’t seem to dwell too much on her time in foster care.  No child should be adopted, and then go back into the foster care system, I just don’t think it is fair to those children at all.  Adopted parents are supposed to be making a commitment to be a Forever Family.  Key word, Forever.

There are so many other cases like this, that don’t end up getting on Oprah, or on any news for that matter.  Kids who are abused and abused and abused some more.  Or kids that are never hurt “bad enough” to catch the attention of a mandatory reporter. 

A report of child abuse is made every 10 seconds.

Almost 5 children die everyday as a result of child abuse.  More then 3 out of 4 of those 5 are under the age of four.

It is estimated that 60-85% of child fatalities due to maltreatment are not recorded as such on the death certificates.

90% of child sexual abuse victims know the perpetrator in some way; 68% are family members.

Child abuse occurs at every socioeconomic level, across ethnic and cultural lines, within all religions, and all levels of education.*

I know that becoming a foster parent is not for everyone.  There are sometimes different ways to be a foster parent, sometimes you can do “respite only,” which would be occasional weekends or weeks, giving foster families breaks, when they need it, or have an emergency that the kids can’t attend, like an out of town funeral, or holiday or something.  “Respite only” families here are always in super high demand.  I also know that fostering in any way is really hard work.  Really hard.  Do you know what the best thing about working hard at something is?  Feeling the reward.  Knowing that what you have done, even in some small way, has paid off.  Having a child call you Kelly Mom or just Mom, even if it’s just for a short while.  If you know that being a foster parent is something that is not for you, then try to find some other way to help with these neglected kids. 

Drop old toys off to your local DHS office.

Drop used baby and kids clothes, especially coats, shoes, etc. with them as well.  Old suitcases, or bags, so the kids aren’t hauling their stuff around in grocery or garbage bags.  Call them first and see what they need, but my guess is that they need it all.  Our boy had 3 shirts, none of which were his, a pair of pants that were 2 sizes too big, a pair of sneakers, and a winter coat with a broken zipper.  No underwear, no socks, no clothes that actually fit him.

Just see what you can do in your community.  For the kids, and for the babies. 

Smiling face of Mea.

For the babies like my Mea, no one ever hurt her, there was never a chance, but how could you ever look at this face and think that you even ever could?

*Statistics from http://www.childhelp.org/


3 Comments on “>Feel the Reward”

  1. >What makes me crazy about cases like that though are that they always mention when adopted kids are abused that they are adopted. Like that somehow excuses it.

  2. Kimberly says:

    >My bestfriends parents have been foster parents forever and it disgusts me when I hear some of the stories…so sad the things people can do to innocent children. Foster parents give those kids a chance…they give them safety and sense of worth and purpose. It's an amazing selfless job. I give them all the credit in the world.

  3. Jen says:

    >Whenever I hear of a child being hurt, I feel enraged. I have been looking into the fostering and adoption options available to us. For now, we donate all but a few sentimental items from E to our local Family Services department. E loves to take the boxes and bags of things.

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