Bad Dreams

Mea has been having bad dreams lately.  I kind of feel like this is an age thing, I kind of remember Mack doing the same thing when she was about this age.  It is scaring her a bit, and I need to do a few things to help her from being scared.

The first thing that I am going to do is quit watching the six o’clock news.

If I can stay up long enough, I’ll try to catch it at 10.

There have been numerous stories on the news lately about attempted abductions, about four or five in the last couple of weeks in surrounding areas, and an actual case of two missing girls, that have been getting a lot of air time, as they should, but I think this is where the nightmares could be coming from.

She keeps having dreams that she has gotten kidnapped or that someone is trying to kidnap her.  Last night, she actually woke up crying because of one of these dreams.  I laid down with her, and we talked and cuddled, until she fell back to sleep.  I asked her if she remembered what to do if a stranger tried to talk to her.  She said the right, answer, “I would yell, “No!” really loud, and run and find an an adult that I know and tell them, Momma.”  I asked her again this morning, and she answered the same way, she definitely knows what to do.

I also assured her that Momma and Daddy wouldn’t let anything happen to her.  We keep tight reigns even at home, mostly because I am a tad psycho overoprotective.  We live on a relatively busy street, and you just never know.

She can only ride her bike so far down the driveway.  I don’t let her play in the front yard.  I warn her about answering the door.  She isn’t allowed to answer the phone.  Etc. etc. and so on.

Then I had a thought.  What if I am making her more worried?  I don’t think this is it, these rules have been in play for quite a while.  It is not something new.

Starting tonight, we are going to do something that Libby suggested to me when I was having bad dreams, and talk about it before bed, assure her that she is safe, that she knows what to do in the event that someone would approach her.  Maybe take her around the house to lock the doors with me. 

Any suggestions as to what I can do to keep the bad dreams at bay would be welcome.




4 Comments on “Bad Dreams”

  1. Maggie says:

    You could get Mea a dream catcher I remember having one when I was her age. I think your doing a good job keeping her safe. My parents were the same way when I was her age.

  2. Becky says:

    I’ve written a couple blog posts about my feelings about this. It’s so hard to strike the right balance between keeping our kids safe, and helping them feel safe and comfortable in our world. I don’t know the ”right” answer. If you find it, I’d love to know I do think having a dream catcher is a good idea, as is talking to her before bed. Maybe spending some time before bed (i.e. not the last thing before lights out) talking about if there’s anything that’s worrying her? I’m afraid if you do it last thing, she might think about it even more right before going to sleep. Some parents have found using a spray bottle with water and glitter to be helpful as well – she can spray it where she wants to to keep away the scary things. Good luck, mama!

  3. libbylogic says:

    Make a dream catcher… It worked wonders for Luke. Also, every night I go into Meg’s room and say “bad dreams get out, only good dreams are allowed here.” Seems to be doing the trick now.

  4. Jen says:

    If you figure this out, let me know. E is regularly having “night fears” as she calls them. They are wicked bad when I can get her to talk to me about them.

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