Stupid or Ignorant?

After the last few days, watching my Facebook and Twitter feeds blow up over the sentiments of the president of Chick-fil-A, and the sentiments coming out either for or against his comments, and the subsequent actions of people who flocked to the restaurants on Wednesday, I started thinking about the difference between stupid and ignorant.

Let’s look at what Merriam Webster’s has to say…


Definition of STUPID

a : slow of mind : obtuse b : given to unintelligent decisions or acts : acting in an unintelligent or careless manner c : lacking intelligence or reason : brutish
: dulled in feeling or sensation : torpid <still stupid from the sedative>
: marked by or resulting from unreasoned thinking or acting : senseless <a stupid decision>
a : lacking interest or point <a stupid event> b : vexatious, exasperating <the stupid car won’t start>


Definition of IGNORANT

a : destitute of knowledge or education <an ignorant society>; also : lacking knowledge or comprehension of the thing specified <parents ignorant of modern mathematics> b : resulting from or showing lack of knowledge or intelligence
Stupid…acting in an unintelligent or careless manner
Ignorant…lacking knowledge or comprehension of the thing specified
I am ignorant about a lot of things, and I will admit it anytime that I am, but if I don’t have the knowledge that I need to know about something that is being talked or reported about, I will do research or ask questions before I will speak up about it.  This is because I do not want to sound stupid when I speak about something.  I am not someone who likes to guess or assume things.  I need to know.
It was amazing to me the people who were blindly throwing out scriptures, and statistics to try to defend themselves in their actions and statements.  I understand having a belief.  I believe myself, but I may not believe the same way that you do.  I can tell you that if God preaches the hatred that has been spewed all over the place recently, I don’t want to be a part of that.  Not at all.
Several years ago, shortly after my mother-in-law died, my husband and I were trying to find a church.  It had been many years since we had gone, we needed to find the right fit for our family.  We went to black churches, we went to white churches, and then we found one that seemed to be the perfect mix of right in between.
Contemporary music, energetic pastors, friendly people, culturally mixed.  It felt like a good fit.  We went every Sunday for a long time, almost a year.  Were considering membership, and then one Sunday the pastor started talking about gay people.  They were going to hell.  They were an abomination.  They needed us to pray for them.
I was done.
We left that day, and didn’t go back.  We are still church “shopping.”
A year later we saw the pastor on TV protesting with other church leaders in our community, the legalization of gay marriage.
I looked at my husband and told him we wouldn’t ever go to any of those churches.  I wrote them all down.  I refuse to go.
I firmly believe that most likely it would have been these same pastors on the steps of our capital protesting the legalization of inter-racial marriage forty-five years ago, had this been the topic of discussion at the time.  (Now, inter-racial marriage has been legal in our state since 1851, but it has only been legal in our entire country since 1967.)
Now, I do my best to stay informed of companies that have such opinions as this one.  I have never eaten at a Chick-fil-A, so I wasn’t aware of the companies conservative and discriminatory ways.  There are other companies that are on my “do not shop list” for various other reasons.  Some political, some personal, and that is my opinion, and my right to do so.  I am also just Kelly.  I am not a CEO of a company, I am not that influential.  So you can take what I say and do what you want with it.
Now, I know that some would say that there is a big difference  between the right of an inter-racial couple to get married, and a same-sex couple to get married, but I do not believe so.  I think they are the same issue.
It is a matter of civil liberties being denied, and has nothing to do with religion.  Who’s right is it to say who can marry who?  Or who is allowed to define what is a marriage?  Each individual person should be allowed to make up their own mind.
So let’s go back to ignorant or stupid for a second.
 Now, if there is research and thought put into a discussion, and you inadvertently still say something that is incorrect, hurtful or wrong?  Apologize.  Get your facts straight.  You had a moment of being ignorant.  It happens to the best of people at some point.
If you stood in line waiting for chicken for four hours on a Wednesday afternoon because someone said to do it, and you contradict yourself all over the place and don’t really know why you did it?  That is stupid.
Just plain stupid.

2 Comments on “Stupid or Ignorant?”

  1. I just don’t understand especially the preachers and community religious leaders preaching love (to their followers, of course) and spewing hate if someone doesn’t agree with them. I don’t think that’s very God-like at all. From my understanding, the president of Chick-Fil-A was not spewing hate and he was speaking to a group of like-minded people. I DO believe that he has every right to speak out about what he believes whether he believes what the ‘mainstream’ believes or not…..just as I (and everyone else) have the right to decide to frequent his establishments or not (I think he employs a lot of good people who would most likely not have a job – which is a good thing – though I had no desire to go to a chick-fil-a even before this whole thing blew up).

  2. Jen says:

    One of the best things that came out of this whole mess in my community was one of our local churches flew a huge rainbow flag out front and hosted a free chicken dinner the day that everyone was buying in support at the restaurant. There were lines of people going all around the block of the church. I was so happy to see that in times when people use religion to cloake racism, sexism and simply hate, that one group was throwing their arms open in the name of faith.

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